Aug 8, 2021 3:27 pm
Safe Play - Lines and Veils, X-Card, Script Change
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Before play, if there are any things you do not want to see in the game, make that clear here. You don't need to explain why, we will all respect your boundaries.
During play, if anything unforeseen comes up and makes you feel unsafe or unhappy (maybe we forgot one of the things vetoed before, maybe recent trauma has left a raw spot, maybe you just never thought this would come up), speak up immediately and we will adjust what is happening to remove the discomfort. This is often called the X-Card, (or Script Change, which is a slightly more complicated and defined version thereof) you can read the details on those links, but basically it boils down to:
If unwelcome topics come up, tap the card, hold up your hands in and X or post "X-Card" to this thread and the thread where the offending material occurred ---as appropriate to the medium you are playing in--- and everyone involved in the scene will stop.
In Play by Post the game may have moved quite far before you read the problem material. If the situation is concluded, think about if you need to have it removed or if it is OK to just not go there again, include that fact in your objection. Either way, that scene will not continue till the problem is resolved.
Again, you don't have to explain why the subject is a problem, but I may ask you to clarify.
For instance:
"Um... X-Card."
"Sorry, forget that, that did not happen.
But to be clear: Is it /all/ 'spiders' that are a problem?
Or just that they were doing there? And is it only when it is /your/ skin?"That way we can avoid the actual problem.
Sometimes you don't mind a thing happening, but just don't want to hear about it. Use the same mechanisms above, but ask that it be done 'off-screen', 'behind a veil', or just 'fade to black'.
Wheaton's Law always applies and makes all this work.
* Don't be a dick.
* Respect your fellow players.
* Be a Fan of the players' Characters.
Please, everybody should subscribe to this thread to get notifications even while dealing with other things.
Before play, if there are any things you do not want to see in the game, make that clear here. You don't need to explain why, we will all respect your boundaries.
During play, if anything unforeseen comes up and makes you feel unsafe or unhappy (maybe we forgot one of the things vetoed before, maybe recent trauma has left a raw spot, maybe you just never thought this would come up), speak up immediately and we will adjust what is happening to remove the discomfort. This is often called the X-Card, (or Script Change, which is a slightly more complicated and defined version thereof) you can read the details on those links, but basically it boils down to:
If unwelcome topics come up, tap the card, hold up your hands in and X or post "X-Card" to this thread and the thread where the offending material occurred ---as appropriate to the medium you are playing in--- and everyone involved in the scene will stop.
In Play by Post the game may have moved quite far before you read the problem material. If the situation is concluded, think about if you need to have it removed or if it is OK to just not go there again, include that fact in your objection. Either way, that scene will not continue till the problem is resolved.
Again, you don't have to explain why the subject is a problem, but I may ask you to clarify.
For instance:
Quote:
"Spiders crawl out from under you skin...""Um... X-Card."
"Sorry, forget that, that did not happen.
But to be clear: Is it /all/ 'spiders' that are a problem?
Or just that they were doing there? And is it only when it is /your/ skin?"
Sometimes you don't mind a thing happening, but just don't want to hear about it. Use the same mechanisms above, but ask that it be done 'off-screen', 'behind a veil', or just 'fade to black'.
Wheaton's Law always applies and makes all this work.
* Don't be a dick.
* Respect your fellow players.
* Be a Fan of the players' Characters.