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I like that idea honestly!

Ah the rainbow color coalition here lmao.

This makes me feel sooo much better:

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Re: Sorry
FROM
BattleaxeBiff
WHEN
February 27, 2021 8:45 pm
Hey Rod, thanks for writing. I'd much rather talk one on one as I've never liked having to go through someone else. There were a few things you did in the pass that definitely irritated me, but probably not as much as Tommy led on. I've never wanted to be a DM because of all the things you have to keep up with and with the platform we are using, I know it is doubly hard. Overall, I think you've been doing a great job.

As far as Tommy goes, I've seen this coming for some time and am surprised, actually, that it has taken this long for things to come to a head. You are correct, he doesn't see how what he says bothers people. He always says he is hard to offend when in truth he one of the most easily offended people I know. Ramona, Bobby, and I have talked about it many times and agree you have to walk on eggshells when around Tommy. There are so many things I would love to say to him, but I know how he will react so I just let it go, but it is very hard to do sometimes.

I am enjoying my new house very well, thank you, and what I said above about Tommy is one of the reasons I bought this house. I will have no problem continuing on without him and will probably enjoy it much more. There were several times when I would check in and see nothing but Tommy and Code going back and forth for pages so I would log off for awhile. That was one of the reasons I would not be around sometimes; I would just get tired of it.

Rest easy with your decision to let him go. I can't blame you one bit. I enjoy playing Kon and hope to continue doing so.

Even his own brother... I’m glad he’s finally going to genuinely participate.

Well, to be fair, we'd switched those rolls by the time our new people joined. They have no idea Kit was the peacekeeper for so long lol. It's okay, I can just blame it on her pregnancy and go from there lol.

And I was the one getting passive aggressive. Thomas wrote me a four page email that he was fine, and then proceeded to list every complaint and slight and name that he had to endue throughout time, how many times he had to walk on eggshells around everyone and have them blow up on him for not appreciating his humor, and how every time I corrected him or enforced a rule against him, and finally said he declared he will never play DnD with anyone again.

For all the players and DM's in the world, I hope that last is true...

Just so Code knows, you did try to stop me from booting Jacob this time too... for about a second.

I applaud you for being able to put up with an email like that. His guilt trip would've worked on me too well. I should've started calling him Jake or Jakie just to add one more undesired nickname to the list... I thought about it, but decided to pick and choose my pettiness.

Yeah... that empathetic side kicks in and goes "maybe we should reconsider this..." But we have new peoples now and I really like Oddtrails so I don't want him chased off because Thomas doesn't know how to behave.

Jackie! We should have called him Jackie!

I'm sorry he gave you so much grief!

And seriously, he complained about walking on eggshells around us? The only eggshell he had to avoid was the one called "Being an arrogant, condescending ASS." I know I had to watch myself with him, lest I somehow inferred by my actions or words that his ideas were not the Most Brilliant Thing I've Ever Heard Since The Dawn Of Time (TM).

By the time I became peacemaker, I was just so tired of the drama of trying to convince him not to be an ass, and then him acting like he hadn't been an ass, and then accusing us of being too sensitive while all his feathers were ruffled because we had the gall to suggest that he'd behaved like an ass, and then nothing whatsoever being different or improved after all of it, despite Jacob making a big theatrical performance of capitulating to the ridiculous notions and magnanimously choosing to move forward, at great sacrifice to himself, for the good of the team, even though we would have been better to have just listened to him or known that he was right, or... etc.

Gah. Sorry, had to get that out. And yes, I'm loving our new players! Much creativity and character.

Honestly, reading all of that, I just kept repeating "YES, PREACH IT, YES!!!"

Yeah! This bitch session makes me so happy.

Oddly, the lying about not being easily offended, and then pretending that he didn't actually mean something the way it was read... that bothered me more than some of the offensive stuff he said/did. I can deal with an annoying person. I can deal with a rude person. But when an annoying / rude person insists that they are not annoying / rude, and that you are just overreacting to nothing, and makes lame half-assed explanations of such (basically gaslighting)... I can't stand that. Be honest and own up to who you are and what mistakes you made. That shows more character than not making those mistakes in the first place.

Be nice to Oddtrails, if he be asking about Jacob. I know you want to just pretent that he never existed, but having never stated that fact in the forum, it was a little confusing.

True. Thank you.