vagueGM says:
Pedrop says:
... I put a way in my RP so that everyone have to provide something ...
Let's let
them suggest the ways they might have provided something rather than 'putting in a way for them'. It can be uncomfortable to have to contradict what someone else has said --and can lead to hurt feelings like we seem to have now-- so often people just go along with it even if they would not have otherwise wanted to go that route.
I'm quite sure that my "feelings" weren't hurt:) I was just angry that you implied that I wanted to say what other should or are doing. As that wasn't certainly my intention. But intentions, aren't always clear I presume:) I think I just wanted to start the game and do the rest of planing in fiction and have some concretes to work with. But indeed it could be perceived in different way.
For the rest of your reasoning - I simply agree. It seems that RP was simply "too much for now".
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It can be very hard to tell if we might have had a better idea once the seed has been planted.
Yeah. So deleting this post wasn't a bad idea it seams.
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Pedrop says:
... anything special for their PCs or made some a decision for them, did I? ...
I am not sure if you want to discuss this. I really don't want to appear to be criticising if you would rather drop this conversation and take a breather.
I did my breathing... and it indeed helped:)
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It is a bit hard to speak about specifics after you deleted the post, but I recall 'dictating' phases like: "
Ronny/
Cat can provide ship shares" and "
Lio really wants to change his life" and "
Lio has some scores to settle with the Navy" and "
Lio is currently at the Depot" and such. This is a lot of assumptions about the other PCs, and kinda paints them into a corner.
I can post it elsewhere or send you if that would help with anything(I saved it, just in case) - but I don't think it will. Yes, there were such things as you mention.
Those were my tries to "puzzle" all things that I thought were already established in logical way... but reading how you perceived them... some of them indeed sound like "crossing the border". But...
"
Ronny/
Cat can provide ship shares" -
can, don't have to. A proposition dressed as plan.
"
Lio has some scores to settle with the Navy" - it was based on the last event when Lio was promised promotion and didn't get it.
"
Lio is currently at the Depot" - I explicitly said after that, we don't know that for sure and Raf
thinks Lio could be there.
But... I understand your message:) No point to argue about single words now.
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Presenting it as an RP and then forcing people to either agree or have to come out and say "I don't like that" is fairly different to discussing it with them in OOC and asking if they like those ideas for their characters.
We know you did not mean harm, and you were invited because of your enthusiasm. Suggestions are welcome, but just don't tell others what their character does.
I don't have problem with people "don't liking my post" - good opportunity to improve for me with time. But that's true, that not everyone would be willing to say that openly. And that could be a hidden problem. Good catch and/or being experienced with the topic of you:)
I still don't think I told anyone what their characters should do. But I presume it's how my post was received, not written... so no point to discuss it any further.
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Aside from that, your making calls and bringing the team together (Ocean's-style) was fine, we can pick up from there if we want.
Raf can even ask the other PCs if they can contribute in the ways you mentioned... but let's first let the players suggest how they might like to see their character get involved (preferably in ways that are not simply about money).
To be honest I completely lost "heart" for that scenerio if it was so "dictatorship perceived" - as you are saying. So I hope others will come up with something else. If company needs a pilot or someone who know how to connect coffee machine to the power plant... Raf is looking for a job, I think...
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Pedrop says:
... I'm going to switch to "reading mode" ...
Please continue to engage in discussion with the other players. But slow it down a bit and let them catch up or initiate ideas.
I will slow down a lot.
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Pedrop says:
... the lack of paragraphs is also not helping, but I like to think that was to imitate Raf's rushed talking ...
I did not comment at first, assuming this was just 'a rushed example of a proposal'. Going forward, it is better to be clear than to try to imitate a style or thought process --or worse, an accent-- using fancy text tricks. Clearly stating the facts and saying something like ' "..."
Raf says in a rushed way' is much better than showing us the rushed way he is saying it and leaving the facts unclear.
Yes: it was also very late at night when I wrote that. Let's state it openly: that post had bad
form - indeed.
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If you want to speak privately we can do that too.
If you feel the need I'm always open for that, but don't know right now what else I could write.
Last edited January 11, 2023 3:00 pm